Is Your Partner Your Safe Place? And What to Do If They're Not.

In this episode… We get into the truth about healing "dad wounds," the joy of a supportive partner, and what to do when you need to find your support system outside of your relationship.

A supportive partner can make all the difference in the journey of motherhood, but what does that support actually look like? 

And how does it feel when that support is something you never had growing up? 

In this deeply personal episode, Shawna and Cara explore what it means to have a partner who is a true “safe place” and how that reality can reshape your entire identity.

Getting vulnerable about their own complicated histories with their fathers, the hosts discuss the bittersweet feeling of watching their children receive the paternal love they always longed for. 

It’s a conversation that acknowledges both the profound gratitude for a healthy partnership and the lingering sadness for a younger self who went without. 

This episode validates the complex emotions that come with breaking generational cycles and intentionally building a new legacy for your kids.

Beyond romantic relationships, this chat is a reminder that support can come from many places. 

The hosts acknowledge that not every listener has a supportive partner and emphasize the critical role that friends and chosen family play in our well-being. 

From the difference between a "fixer" and someone who can just "hold space," to the power of journaling when you feel alone, this episode is full of gentle reminders and practical wisdom for any mom looking to build and appreciate her support system.

TLFMTR (Too Long For Mom To Read):

• Having a supportive partner can be a healing experience, especially if you had a challenging relationship with your own father.
  
  

• It's normal to feel a mix of gratitude for your present and sadness for your past self when you watch your child with a wonderful parent.
  
  

• If your partner isn't your safe place, it’s crucial to build other support systems with friends or family and openly ask for help.
  
  

• Support doesn't just mean fixing problems; sometimes, the best support is just holding space for someone to fall apart and build themselves back up.
  
  

• Focusing on your own growth is the most powerful way to improve a relationship; "rising tides raise all boats".

Who is your safe place, and how can you be a safe place for someone else this week?

Remember, you are a great mom, and you're not alone in this. 

If you're looking for more support on your journey and want to continue the conversation with a group of moms who get it?

See you there!

Shawna & Cara