Habits Don't Stick You not Lazy, You Just Need the Right Strategy Mom

Have you ever felt a surge of frustration when you try a popular productivity hack or morning routine and falls flat for you (even though it seems to work for everyone else)?

It’s a common experience and especially true in motherhood. We’ve found this leads to feelings of guilt or being "lazy".

But what if that wasn’t true?

In this episode, we offer a new perspective: maybe you’re not failing the system; the system is failing you.

We dive deep into the brilliant framework from Gretchen Rubin’s book, "The Four Tendencies".

The premise is simple yet revolutionary: everyone responds to expectations differently.

AND… once you know your true motivational tendency… you can change the game for yourself, building routines and habits to help build the life you want.

Based on Gretchen’s philosophy we chat about how understanding if you are an:

Upholder (thrives on inner and outer expectations)

Questioner (needs to know 'why')

Obliger (needs external accountability)

Rebel (resists all expectations)

You can unlock the code to your own motivation.

Join us, Shawna and Cara, for a candid conversation as we figure out our own tendencies live on air. 

Shawna explores her dual nature as a Rebel who craves freedom but also as an Obliger who will do anything for others but struggles to show up for herself. 

We discuss why this knowledge is so empowering. It's not about changing who you are, but about learning to work with who you are to achieve your goals. 

This episode is your permission slip to stop trying to fit into a box and start building a life that truly fits you.

TLFMTR (Too Long For Mom To Read):

• An introduction to Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel, which are based on how you respond to inner and outer expectations.
  
  

• Why generic habit advice often fails and how understanding your unique wiring is the key to success.
  
  

• The power of leveraging your natural tendency as a strength rather than trying to change who you are at your core.
  
  

• Personal examples of how Shawna (a Rebel wanna be… real life Obliger) and Cara (an Upholder) navigate motivation differently.
  
  

• An invitation to stop the cycle of self-judgment and instead use self-awareness to build a life that feels more authentic and fulfilling.

Instead of asking "Why can't I stick to this?", what if you gently asked, "What kind of support or structure do I naturally need to succeed?"

Remember, you are not a project to be fixed; you are a person to be understood. 

If you're looking for more support on your journey and want to continue the conversation with a group of moms who get it?

To learn more about Gretchen Rubin and her work and take the Four Tendencies quiz:

https://gretchenrubin.com/four-tendencies/

See you there!

Shawna & Cara