The Comment Still Haunts Me How Mom Guilt Shapes Our Self-Worth

Have you ever changed your parenting decision or your entire mood based on someone else’s comment? 

In this real-talk episode, Shawna and Cara name what so many moms carry but rarely say out loud: other people’s expectations, judgments, and unsolicited advice are heavy. 

And they don’t belong to you.

Cara shares how a single comment planted guilt that lasted years, shaping how she moved, mothered, and second-guessed herself. 

Shawna talks about the emotional labor of keeping everyone else comfortable even when it meant silencing her own instincts.

Through hilarious asides (hello, mole hairs and fake smiles) and soul-deep honesty, they offer permission to pause, exhale, and reclaim your voice.

Because the truth is, motherhood isn’t hard, performing as a good mom to meet other people's perception of good motherhood is.

And when we stop chasing approval and start trusting our own inner compass, everything shifts.

TLFMTR (Too LONG for Mom to read):

• Releasing mom guilt tied to generational expectations
  
  
  

• How to pause instead of spiraling after unsolicited advice
  
  
  

• “Thank you for the feedback”—a mindset tool and boundary starter
  
  
  

• How modeling self-trust helps our kids feel safer and stronger
  
  
  

• Why being disliked sometimes is a sign you’re doing it right
  
  
  

What would it feel like to trust yourself more than the opinions around you?

You are the expert on your own motherhood and that’s more than enough.

Want to continue the conversation with a group of moms who get it?

See you there!

Shawna & Cara