The Wrinkles Be Wrinklin Aging Motherhood and Loving the Face in the Mirror

Before diving into the deep end, Shawna and Cara catch up on the beautiful chaos of their lives.

Cara shares the exciting (and slightly anxiety inducing) news (tune in to find out…).

Shawna is navigating the joys of a toddler’s sleep regression while also parenting a stepson who is about to apply for university , summing it up as the extremes of "driving and diapers".

This candid catch-up sets the stage for a much-needed conversation, sparked by Cara’s hilarious encounter with a stranger who bluntly commented on the number of children she had with her.

In this episode, the hosts tackle the complex feelings around aging and motherhood.

They discuss the societal pressure to fight aging, which often feels like treating it as a disease , and the personal struggle of wanting to feel good and "fresh" while your body is undeniably changing, hello, droopy eyelids. Is that you "mom bum"?

They share vulnerable "aha" moment and revelation with a fun Golden Girls twist…

And they pull back the curtain on "mirror blindness," where you feel unchanged on the inside until a quick glance in the mirror leaves you wondering, "Who the expletive is that?".

This isn't a conversation about erasing wrinkles, but about reframing them. It’s about seeing smile lines as proof of a life filled with laughter and a softer belly as the place where you created life.

Ultimately, Shawna and Cara land on an empowering truth: obsessing over recapturing a past version of yourself is a losing game. 

The real win is in growing forward and, in doing so, showing our own children what it looks like to age with grace, gratitude, and self-compassion.

TLFMTR (Too Long for Mom to Read):

• We often experience "mirror blindness," where we feel the same internally, only to be shocked by our reflection in a photo or video.
  
  

• A powerful mindset shift is to move the goal from looking "young" to looking and feeling "rested," "fresh," and good in your own body.
  
  

• Our physical changes can be reframed as marks of a life well-lived: smile lines are proof you laughed through hard times , and a soft belly is the place where life began.
  
  

• The way we approach our own aging teaches our children how to age with grace and gratitude, not fear and shame.
  
  

• A surprising revelation about The Golden Girls gives the girls an ab work out in the form of full on laughter.

How can you speak to the person in the mirror today with the same kindness and grace you would offer a dear friend?

Remember, you are a great mom, and you're not alone in this. 

If you're looking for more support on your journey and want to continue the conversation with a group of moms who get it?

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Shawna & Cara