Why Losing Friends in Motherhood Feels So Lonely and What to Do About It

When you become a mom, you expect sleepless nights, diaper changes, and overwhelming love for your little one.

What you don't see coming?

The way your friendships will shift, sometimes dramatically, leaving you feeling isolated and confused about where you fit in.

In this raw and honest episode, Shawna and Cara tackle one of the most challenging aspects of motherhood that rarely gets discussed…

The friendship changes that come with having kids. 

From the painful reality of "friendship breakups" to the awkwardness of trying to make new mom friends in your 40s, they share their personal experiences with losing connections while struggling to find new ones.

The conversation explores how personal growth can create distance in relationships, even when love remains.

They discuss the unique challenges of being older first-time moms, the difficulty of staying authentic when old friends want you to remain unchanged, and why sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let a friendship evolve into something different. 

The girls also address the guilt that comes with prioritizing your own growth and the fear of being "too much" when meeting new people.

Most importantly, they offer hope for moms stuck in the liminal space between old friendships that no longer serve them and new relationships that haven't yet formed. 

With vulnerability and humor, Shawna and Cara remind listeners that this season of friendship uncertainty isn't permanent and that growth, while sometimes lonely, ultimately leads to more authentic connections.

TLFMTR (Too Long for Mom to Read):

• You can love someone deeply but still outgrow the friendship - and that's okay
  
  
  

• Making new friends as an adult mom is awkward for everyone, not just you
  
  
  

• You're the average of the five people you spend most time with - choose wisely
  
  
  

• People often love you "within the limits of what they believe is possible"
  
  
  

• The loneliness of the "in-between" space isn't forever if you keep growing

What friendships in your life feel like they're holding you back from becoming who you're meant to be, and how can you honor both your growth and your love for these people?

Remember, you're not broken if your friendships have changed since becoming a mom - you're evolving. And you deserve relationships that celebrate your growth, not limit it.

Want to continue the conversation with a group of moms who get it?

See you there!

Shawna & Cara